If you like to look you will probably find you have something in common with famous people throughout history to this day.
For me there are certain things I am not proud of but having said that they have made me who I am today. I am sharing this in the hopes it will help someone that maybe going through dark times feeling scared and alone and not know which way to turn. I want you to know YOU ARE NOT ALONE!
So here goes warts and all, 10 things I have in common with famous people from Princess Dianna to Jennifer Aniston.
I always knew I was adopted because my adoptive mother, a nurse, believed it was better for me to know from the beginning that to be told later in life. She said I was more precious because I was really wanted and chosen, where some children were born and live in the birth family but weren’t wanted. I grew up as an only child which was very lonely at times but I became accustomed to being alone and found it difficult when I got married to a man from a large family.
Celeb: Steve Jobs was also adopted but that is as far as it goes in similarity.
I didn’t cope well at school and was labelled as dumb and never amounting to anything. This had seriously consequences for me throughout my life as I suffered from low self-esteem and lack of confidence. I was put in a class one above intellectually handicapped children. I rebelled when I reached my teens and got into all sorts of trouble including being arrested by the police for being in a flat during school hours with guys who were known for fencing stolen goods.
Celebs Albert Einstein, Richard Branson and Jennifer Aniston belong to this club but again there the similarity ends.
Again not a good thing to have at a Catholic School. Along with being dyslexic I was left-handed to boot! If I had been born in earlier times I would have been burned at the stake as a witch! That reminds me I do park my broom at the front door and my grandchildren tell everyone at school I’m a witch but a good one!
Celebs: Angelina Jolie, Oprah Winfrey and Prince William.
Sexual, Physical and Emotional Abuse
Sadly due to my being an only child and having very low self-worth I was an easy target for the perverts. I was sexually abused more than once and by more than one person, within the family and outside but let me say it was not my father. Although he could be physically violent and suffered from depression and anxiety he was never inappropriate in his behaviour towards me. As for the physical and emotional abuse it had seemed quite normal to me as I didn’t know any different. I think that was a big catalyst for my break-down in my early twenties. I actually thought I was that unworthy I deserved to be punished. Boy have I change from that person but it took a lot of work.
Celebs: Oprah Winfrey, Maya Angelou
Depression and Anxiety
I think it probably started as postnatal depression and the above for mentioned, but being so young when I had my children I didn’t feel confident at all. Couple this with the feeling of loneliness, while all my friends were still working and going out and I found myself sinking lower and lower until my loneliness turned into anxiety then full on panic attacks. This was one of those events, although horrendous at the time, changed my life forever. I learned a formula that got me through and out the other side and showed me just how strong I was. This was the turning point for me because I started back running again which gave me the confidence to go back to school and later qualify as a Registered Nurse.
Celebs: Audrey Hepburn, Emma Thompson, and the late Robin Williams.
Along with a low self-esteem came an eating disorder. After the children I had put a bit of weight on, and being home on my own while my husband was out working then out with friends I felt very insecure. This was when the dieting started then the bulimia. The problem was that as I lost weight people began telling me how good I looked. Being so desperate for attention I panicked if I ate what I thought was too much. It was also something I had control of as I felt the rest of my life was out of my control. It actually gave me a feeling of security. However along with the security came guilt and self- loathing. My ex, not knowing what to do about it, would give me the silent treatment for weeks, then go out get drunk and not come home to the early hours of the morning. I would be so grateful when this happened because I knew he would then forgive me and start talking to me again! It was a very lonely place to be because there was no one I could talk to about it and although my ex knew he wouldn’t talk about it just do the silent treatment which made it worse.
Celebs: The late Princess Diana and Joan Rivers.
Irritable Bowel Syndrome
Now I won’t go into detail with this but it has certainly made my life difficult over the years. Anxiety and stress exacerbate the symptoms causing abdominal bloating and pain for months on end.
Celebs: Tyra Banks
Never an easy time even if it is your decision. He wasn’t a bad person and we are still friends, but very painful time when you question if you have made the right decision and the security of the marriage looks very inviting to the tough time making it on your own. I had to weigh up what I was giving up for my freedom.
Celebs: well the list would be too long but Princess Diana comes to mind.
Another very low period in my life that came about by poor choices at a time when the economy was looking pretty grim. I was then living in New Zealand on my little spot of paradise with all my animals only to be up heaved and moved to Australia in a matter of 6 weeks. Everything was sold the animals given away or farmed out until we could get settled and bring them over. Total nightmare and again I crashed and burned and would have happily stayed in the poor me mode except it was lonely there and I couldn’t change anything from that space so I decided to move on!! Took over a year of forcing myself out to meet people and finding work but in the end I moved on and learned so much about myself and what I am capable of I do believe it was a blessing in disguise and what a disguise it was!
Celebs: Donald Trump, Michael Jackson
The final just as I am coming out the other end of bankruptcy I find myself having trouble doing my job and finding it difficult to run any distance without feeling very fatigued. Then the sensation in my fingers and hands changed followed by loss of grip and power in my arms. I started to stumble a lot until I could only walk very slowly and had to focus on my every step. I had a nerve conduction test done, bloods and a spinal tap. In April 2014 I was diagnosed with an auto-immune condition called Chronic Inflammatory Demyelinating polyneuropathy CIDP for short. Although I did the self-pity and wallowing thing it didn’t last long because I knew if I was going to overcome this it was up to me. All this time I kept going to the gym and doing spin classes. I had no resistance on the wheels but at least I kept my legs turning over. I went in for 5 days of IGIV treatment which put me in remission, and gave me back most of my strength and sensation. It is ongoing as it is a chronic condition but I am back running again and being involved in life to the maximum.
Celebs: Michael J Fox, Seal, Lady Gaga
Well there you have it. Things I have in common with famous people! However this is only a very small part of who I am! The best part is how I overcame these negative events in my life and how despite starting over again and living with a chronic condition I can still live my life on my terms. I can choose what I focus on, and how I can live my life, deliberately, not by chance.
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